The emergence of sex addiction into mainstream consciousness might have some people worried about their spouse, partner, family member or close friend. With the admission to having a sex addiction by several well-known celebrities, most often after being caught cheating on their spouse, the line between an addict and a cheating spouse begins to blur. You may find yourself wondering if there are signs you should be watching for literotica. It is important to understand that there is a difference between a person who is unfaithful and untrustworthy, and a person who is genuinely dealing with a sex addiction.
Perhaps it is not your partner you are concerned about, but rather a family member or friend or a friend’s spouse. Perhaps you’ve gotten the vague sense that something is not quite right and you don’t know enough to approach him/her with your concerns; again, are there signs that you should be watching for.
If any of the above scenarios explains the situation you find yourself in, read on. There are signs that you can watch for, tell-tale behaviors that can act as a red flag to indicate that a sex addiction is likely involved.
1. Preoccupation with Sex
A person with a sex addiction will have an unusual preoccupation with sex and their own, personal sexual fantasies. While it is healthy and normal to think about sex and maintain a healthy libido, a person who is struggling with addiction will be preoccupied with sex to the exclusion of anything else. Eventually, sexual thoughts and activities will be the most important part of their lives.
If the man or woman in your life is addicted to sex, how will you be able to notice this preoccupation? The individual may have pornographic magazines and movies lying around. You may notice during conversations that they continually seem to center conversation on sexual activity or other sexual topics. He or she may be drawn to or point out adult bookstores and cinemas, strip clubs and massage parlors. If this person is your partner, you may notice an extreme in sexual appetite – either continually asking to have sex or never wanting to have sex at all.
2. Changes in Mood
Individuals who are struggling with a sex addiction may suddenly begin to act distant and withdrawn as they become more preoccupied with their sexual activity. As the addiction progresses, the addict will be dealing with shame, guilt and the fear of being found out, leading to mental and physical withdrawal from those around them. Their work, social circles, families and normal activities will begin to suffer from lack of attention.
The addiction cycle generally begins with addicts acting withdrawn as they are preoccupied with their fantasies. This is followed by the excitement of the sexual ritual or chase, the high of acting out (acting on their fantasy), and finally the shame and guilt after the fact. To family and friends, this sex addiction cycle will look like depression and mood swings. Many times sex addicts will be tired, sick and cranky due to lack of sleep and the after effects of their time spent in their sexual behaviors.